The best advice usually comes from someone who's been there, done that. So for guidance on how to make the most of your first year at college, who better to ask than a graduating senior? Emma Bilello shares insights shaped by personal experience in the first of three articles addressing the specific concerns of female students during freshman year.
It's that time of year again when teens leave the sanctuary of high school and venture into the sexual free-for-all known as college. If you didn't spend your formative years playing the field, sex as a college freshman can be an extremely eye-opening and often, completely traumatizing experience. Although not everyone chooses to go hog wild when they hit campus — it's certainly not a requirement for a good education — university life is at the very least conducive to trying new things.
For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life -- one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It's a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with year-old hormones -- which can result in a lot of really bad life decisions. If you are the kind of wise-beyond-your-years person who only has sober sex with people you're in a committed relationship with, more power to you!
Going into college your freshman year can be intimidating…in more ways than one. Sexually transmitted diseases are more common in college than most people are comfortable to admit, and are a very serious matter. This is on of those sex tips that should not be taken lightly.
Include Synonyms Include Dead terms. Peer reviewed Direct link. Problem: College life offers several challenges for students, particularly freshmen who often find themselves in an unsupervised environment with multiple opportunities to engage in a variety of risk behaviors.
Take it from someone who had their Facebook permanently deleted within the first month of college because she I got really drunk at a party and decided it would be cute to let her my gay friend leave videos on a handful of friends' Facebook walls of him hanging from a again, my bunk bed naked, screeching like a monkey. Honestly, all of that time spent doing SAT prep, wearing blazers on college campus tours, and crafting "how my privilege taught me something about the world" essays would be much more purposefully spent watching videos about what you look like drunk, and reviewing case studies of douchebaggery. You need to learn how to not be "that person," — and how to handle yourself when you encounter "that person" — but those are hard things to do when you are turned loose at 18 with all of the freedoms of an adult but absolutely none of the wisdom.
F or the college freshman virgin, the first week of school can feel like happening upon an awkward but rambunctious teenage orgy. Indeed, your sexual inexperience will never be more keenly felt than in these first few weeks when everyone appears to major in the coital arts except you. When I say that I was a virgin when I started college, I do not just mean it in the heteronormative sense of not having had penetrative vaginal sex with a man.
My little sister, Mallory, starts college this week, which I can't believe, considering the last time I checked, she was crawling around the kitchen floor in a diaper, drinking out of the dog's bowl. Anyway, as a sex and love writer, I feel it's my responsibility to impart some wisdom on navigating the college romantic scene. Then again, as her big brother, maybe this is very much NOT my responsibility.
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